I began to develop Yield Theory in 1998 as my personal approach to psychotherapy. I have spent the last 16 years, however, revising it, developing it, and teaching it to others. Though I primarily train psychotherapists in Yield Theory, for me, it is more than an approach to the process of counseling; it is a way of life. Yield Theory is a way to connect with others, and it is a way to understand others; but it is also a way for us all to understand our Selves. It is predicated on the fundamental assumption that if we lived every day as another person; not just walk a proverbial mile in his or her shoes, but actually had that person’s cognitive functioning, affective capabilities, and life experiences, then we would make every single choice that that person has ever made. Through Yield Theory, judgments end and understanding begins. Below are the seven main components of Yield Theory.
Seven Components of Yield Theory™
Yield theorists accept others for who they are, and they understand the very big difference that exists between accepting who others are and condoning their harmful actions. The goal of acceptance is to both see the True Self of others and to help them see it as well.
Yield theorists strive to be authentic in every interaction by communicating in direct, but kind ways. The intention is to live congruently with the True Self and express genuineness to others.
- Conscious Education
Yield theorists believe that people do hurtful things because they fundamentally do not realize the complete impact of their behaviors. The goal then, is to expand the consciousness of others by teaching them in compassionate ways that fit with their individualized learning styles.
Yield theorists understand that people learn differently and communicate in multiple ways. The aim of being creative is to meet people where they are (rather than expect them to already be somewhere they’re not), and help them actually understand what is attempting to be communicated.
- Elimination of Shame
Yield theorists recognize that people who live in shame act out of shame. They dually understand the difference between shame-forward (which has the potential to stop us from harming others) and shame-backwards (which leads to further acting out behaviors – either to self or others).
Yield theorists utilize meditation and self-reflection to expand their awareness of their behavioral patterns, their communication styles, and themselves. In turn, the intention is to expand the mindfulness of others in the same three areas.
Yield theorists are mindful that enlightenment can come from anyone, anywhere, and at any time; therefore, they do not strive to be attached to their beliefs, as every moment is welcomed as a potential opportunity to expand consciousness.
For more on Yield Theory, please see some of the information I have posted on http://www.psychotherapy.net/article/Anger-Management-Conte
For an understanding of Yield Theory in action, please see Getting Control of Yourself: Anger Management Tools and Techniques.